My grandmother, Sunshine died this fall at the ripe old age of 98. She lived a pretty incredible life, and she lived through some very interesting times.
She was born in Detroit at the tail end of the roaring twenties as the second eldest of four and the only girl. The daughter of a foundry foreman she spent her youth on the east side before relocating to the west side. Her house on the west side at 5756 Hamilton Ave. would eventually be torn down as part of the expansion of the Lodge Freeway. She grew up in a Detroit that was booming. It's population would double between 1920 and 1950 as it became the 5th largest and the wealthiest city in the country.
Graduating high school at the end of WWII, she enrolled first in Alma College in Alma, MI, and eventually graduated from Michigan Normal College (now Eastern Michigan) in 1949 after training to be librarian with a minor in spanish, a language which I never heard her speak. She would often tell of hitchhiking between Ypsilanti and Detroit.
| Quiet possibly Sunshine in the Bookmobile |
After college she began working as a librarian for the Detroit Public Library. She soon began working on the city's bookmobile riding around the city distributing books. She then began working as a research librarian at the GM Research Laboratory where she met my grandfather. She had turned down two marriage proposals from other suitors before eventually accepting my grandfather's hand in marriage.
She chose wisely. Living first in an apartment near the GM research lab, they eventually moved onto a modest home on Derby road in Birmingham where they would have their children. Sunshine would settle into life as a 1950's housewife. Eventually as my grandfather rose the ranks within the GM research laboratory they would move to a more stately home at 2515 Covington Place. During these years I have to imagine they lived the stereotypical suburban life with sunshine rearing three daughters while my grandfather went off to work each day.
As her children got older she was able to travel more with my grandfather who often traveled for his work as the executive director of the GM research laboratory and as a member of the National Academy of Engineering.
| The only known picture of Sunshine wielding a machete. Taken at my place in Poulsbo, WA. In the background is a picture of us, and a wooden box she gave me. |
After my grandfather's retirement from GM in 1987 they downsized to a condo in The Heathers, less than a mile from when I grew up. This meant they were always around for birthdays and school plays. When my grandfather died in 1998, Sunshine became my only grandparent left, an honor which she would hold for another 27 years. It was around this time that me and my siblings were getting old enough for our mother to let us ride our bikes alone to her house. In the summer we would often ride over to her house to play rummy, drink Big K pop and eat Drumsticks ice cream cones which I think she always kept in supply just for us. Otherwise her fridge was mostly empty as she would boast about making a Wendy's salad last for two meals. Not that she particularly needed to pinch pennies as the wife of an auto industry executive, but I think as a child of the great depression she always valued frugality. Those are some of my greatest memories of Sunshine.
Sunshine was always a big believer in a quality education. That shows in all three of her children graduating college and two of them getting advanced degrees. I think she was extremely proud when my siblings and I were inducted into the National Honor Society, got accepted into the University of Michigan, and graduated from college. She helped pay for all of her grandchildren's college educations.
She was also quite the traveller. I remember asking her if she was excited about visiting Russia on an upcoming trip and her response was that she'd already been there twice! Even after my grandfather died she travelled extensively with friends through her seventies.
In 2012, after spending her entire 85 years in the state of Michigan she moved to Pacific Palisades in California, right on the beach to be near my aunt. When my aunt moved to Tampa Bay a few years later she followed as well, spending the rest of her life in Florida, near where she and my grandfather had vacationed every winter after his retirement. She lived in a condo looking out over the Gulf of Mexico. When COVID hit, she hunkered down being at higher risk due to her age and being in Florida. It was during this time that her memory began to decline, which was a surprise to me since even in her early nineties she could remember little details of my childhood that I had long forgotten. Whether her memory loss would have happened at that age anyways, or if the prolonged isolation of COVID had something to do with it... who knows. But she spent her last few years in memory care before dying peacefully in her sleep.
Sunshine was a bit particular in some ways. She hated surprises. She also had a strong sense of what was prudent, and if you strayed from that she would tell you. She cared deeply about how she, and by extension her family, presented themselves. In later years she would talk to me often about the legacy of my grandfather, and his work. I think she really wanted us to know what a great man he was. She deeply loved her family, although she could seem ambivalent to her children's and grandchildren's partners. She also loved to tell me how proud she was of me and the person I became. That always meant a lot to me. She was someone I was very close to growing up, and I'll miss her always.